Dear Pastor, Who do I fall in love with and who do I run away from?

The next question is who do you fall in love with? Again, I will address that by telling you who not to fall in love with. You see, everybody has a purpose in your life, and when you fail to discern that purpose, it will lead to abuse or you end up being abused.

1. Don’t fall in love with the same sex

Now, forget about all the propaganda and agitation going on around the world, this lifestyle is clearly forbidden in the scripture. It was specifically mentioned in the scriptures as unnatural. How can you fall in love with same sex and then device means of sleeping together?

Worse followed. Refusing to know God, they soon didn’t know how to be human either––women didn’t know how to be women, men didn’t know how to be men. Sexually confused, they abused and defiled one another, women with women, men with men––all lust, no love. And then they paid for it, oh, how they paid for it––emptied of God and love, godless and loveless wretches (Romans 1:26-27 Message)

It is a practice you must not dabble into as a child of God and if you are already into it, you must seek help immediately. I minister around in churches and when I make altar calls for people with these issues, I am amazed at how such lie and perversion have crept into churches. I once had to do training for certain denomination on how to handle this kind of scenario when a committed member is suddenly discovered as living the gay lifestyle.

Now listen to me, when you start finding yourself attracted to the same sex and with sexual feelings, don’t ever accept the lie of the devil that you were created that way. God is not an author of confusion. Male and female created he them. There is nothing like Adam and Steve or Eve and Eva!

2. Don’t fall in love with your pastor

A lot of ladies like their pastors. It is understandable because he is anointed and you hear him all the time while he is covered with God’s glory. In fact the scripture says anointing attracts!

Because of the savour of thy good ointments thy name is as ointment poured forth, therefore do the virgins love thee. (Song of Songs 1:3 KJV)

But you need to understand that your pastor is another woman’s husband! You can like him, but when that likeness is bothering on obsession, and you are falling in love, it is time you caution yourself.

You also need to understand that your pastor is first of all a man before he is a man of God. He has all the strength and weaknesses as well. He does not live in heaven. When you have been going for counsels every day, and you are falling in love, and your pastor too is enjoying your presence daily, it is better to withdraw because there are counsels that can cancel a man’s destiny.

When you know you have developed feelings for your pastor, what are you still doing with him everyday in counseling session that has not finished? You need to help yourself and help your pastor as well. In fellowships on campuses, care must be taken particularly not to use your position to defile people you are meant to lead.

3. Don’t fall in love with your lecturer

In your bid to pass an examination, don’t end up in the bed of your lecturer. There are no ways you want to explain it, it is a dangerous trend to take.

4. Don’t fall in love with your sibling

You won’t be able to get married to your sibling, so why indulge in unnecessary games and tell yourselves you are in love? If you have been sexually involved with a sibling or you still involved, that is what the Bible describes as incest. Even the society frowns at it. You can go to God and ask Him to forgive you and He will forgive once you are genuinely repentant.

5. Don’t fall in love with a minor.

Those feelings you have for a three year old or a five year old child are demonic and you need to seek help so that you don’t end up becoming an abuser and end up messing up that child’s life. Leave that little cousin alone! Leave that innocent niece alone and stop kissing her all the time! Stop putting her on you laps! You need to confront yourself.

Be real with your feelings because it doesn’t happen in one day, it is progressive. That is why the Bible says judge yourself that you not be judged.

6. Don’t fall in love with your parents’ age mate

Don’t fall in love with a married man who is as old as your father or a woman who is as old as your mum because of the mammon spirit. Promises of going to Dubai, shopping in London, allowance of hundreds of thousands every month are not worth the agony and regrets that will later follow a person that gives his or her body out as a commodity! Your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost; it is not something to trade for money. How would you be another woman’s headache, sleeping with her husband and then think you will have God’s support?

If everything is about seed and harvest, what then will happen to your own home? The next time he comes telling you that you are the one he loves, tell him he is not only lying, but he is lying in state. Tell him to go keep his money and go back to his wife. That is how to live right and trust God as your provider and stop looking at a mere man as your Jehovah Jireh!

7. Don’t fall in love with an unbeliever

Don’t fall in love with a man or a lady that do not know God. Don’t even pray about it, because it won’t work out and God will not answer that prayer. Don’t bother to say you will convert him or her because you are not the Holy Spirit that converts. You have not even converted yourself!

Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands (2 Corinthians 6:14-15 Message)

8. Don’t fall in love with an abuser

Finally, but not exhaustively, don’t fall in love with an abuser! Why would you stick with the one that is constantly abusing you physically, sexually, verbally or emotionally? Why stick with the one that you know is in it for the money? Why stick with a person that slaps you today and begs you after only to come the next day to donate more slaps? Why degrade yourself to be trampled upon and slept with at will? Why fall in love with a person who is not in love with you but using you? Why cope with the one that tells you are ugly and stupid?

Why are you so generous with your body that you sleep with the one that hates your guts? Who called you into such philanthropy? Child of God, you are more than that! You need to raise your shoulder and walk out of that relationship. If you cannot walk out, then run or even fly away but by all means, free yourself like a bird out of the snare of the fowler, and go into the newness that God has for you!

Our soul is escaped as a bird out of the snare of the fowlers: the snare is broken, and we are escaped. (Psalms 124:7 KJV)

A word for married couples.

When you find yourself in a defective marriage, by reason of a mistake that you now realize, you don’t need to walk out of that marriage as the first reaction. You need to work at it, you need to pray a lot and you need to adjust your own attitudes as well. The scripture says that a good attitude can actually influence your spouse! Divorce is not always the first option unless your life is no longer safe with the one you call a spouse.

If this blesses you, then join us to reach others so they can also be blessed. INVITE your friends to join us now ===> FOLLOWERS OF CHRIST (FOC)

To be continued tomorrow. Tomorrow, we will be looking at how to fall in love.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I know who to fall in love with. I am led of God Married: I am in love with my spouse only and with no other.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, shield from evil according to your word.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
So leave the corruption and compromise; leave it for good, “says God. ” Don’t link up with those who will pollute you. I want you all for myself. (2 Corinthians 6:17 Message)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Disconnect from all wring people

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